Think about the last time you told yourself you’d do something, and then didn’t. Maybe it was getting up early to exercise, saying no to a draining commitment, or sticking to a habit you were building. How did it feel afterward? Disappointing, right? That disappointment chips away at our confidence and keeps us stuck.

This is my fifth Valentine’s Day without alcohol, and while I would have previously leaned on a bottle of champagne as the way to celebrate, living alcohol-free has led me to a newfound creativity in how I organize a date night for me and my husband.